When you have nothing left but love, then for the first time, you become aware that love is enough. I cannot recall where or when I first heard this poignant thought, but it stuck with me ever since. It is the truth reflected in every marriage vow—that promise to love and accept and to stand with your partner in sickness and in health, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, as long as you both shall live. This last line used to be “until death do us part,” which has become too negative for young couples nowadays. I offer to say “forever” because forever is how strongly they will love each other. This is the commitment that couples in love prefer to make. Love forever is the crazy glue of life.
You have dreamed of your special day in your own special way since the idea of getting and being married first fired your imagination. Some brides think about their wedding celebration; some think of their marriage. That’s simply the way life is. Everyone’s thoughts about marrying conjure differently, just as everyone’s feelings about their budget has different values. Everything you want in your wedding and marriage is uniquely your own. When you come right down to it, however, everyone has the same fundamental feeling about marriage going in: love.
We’ve married couples from all walks of life, nationalities, religious or spiritual persuasions and levels of maturity and caring. Couples come to us for something more personal than the county clerk provides, less costly than a full-blown beach wedding and less formal than a church or large formal venue requires. Whatever they themselves may want, at some point in their thought process they realize that they may be setting up too humbly or more extravagantly than their families or friends expect. It’s only natural to second guess yourself. It’s often part of the event planning process to ask how much is too much, how far is too far? We help these couples regain their balanced perspective by reviewing with them why they are marrying and the future they are uniting to share. When they settle on a perspective or a standard they can be comfortable with, we proceed. It pays to speak calmly and frankly with an experienced third party who is not related or a close friend.
Some couples elect to marry secretly now and announce to the world later, and some couples are already secretly married and want to celebrate publically now. Some prefer to share this unique moment quietly with only their closest friends, while others elect a large wedding with all the trimmings and social extravagances. Still others decide to skip the hassle, save the money, and elope. Whatever moves you, there are many ways to tie the knot. The choice is absolutely yours to make.
But when you take away all the trimmings and hoopla from any wedding, all you have is love. All you need is love. Love is enough.
Your day, your way!